The Cheating Wife/Girl-Friend

Women are not Supposed to Cheat – Still they do!The Popular belief says whenever we talk about “emotional or sexual cheating in a relationship”, the needle moves towards the male partner. Women are just not “supposed to cheat”. But thats a truth thats fast changing.
We are in a world, were its equally common to find a woman cheating.

5 commonest reasons why women cheat –

1. Search for a Comforting Shoulder someone to confide in. Someone to share their emotional trauma with. It could be a best friend, a office mate or even the gym instructor.

2. Need to Control a man – Women are not all that docile. Some of them have a very high need to have control over a man. Their Ego pushes them to seek for one such. She has to feel like the queen and the male as her slave.
This is the most addictive type of relationships, because its purely materialistic. Its common trigger for sex addiction in many women.

3. Friends with Benefits – A Neighbour, friend or Husbands Friend might become a very safe bet. There is already a cover for the same. The mind feels “Secure” to get into such relationships as its perceived as a “friends with benefits” phenomenon.

4. Forever Young – One of the scariest things for women is the process of aging. Accepting that your body and looks are not the same as they used to be, can be really depressive to many. In such a case, the attraction towards a younger male partner is a way to assure the “youthfulness”.

5. The Virtual World- Online Dating, Affairs over whatsapp or facebook are the new age definitions. While many of them might never be physical, they carry a huge emotional involvement. It can be deemed as the most dangerous of all the above, because one can be involved in such an affair at any place, at any time.

Mind Mantra – A marriage or a relationship is a beautiful institution. It depends on trust, togetherness and love. If this institution already has cracks, then an extra-marital affair is very possible. Its time to understand that the marriage needs to be cured.
But if one is purposely cheating based on their own “ego” needs, than its important to self-introspect and correct the wrong.

The Most important issue bond in a relationship is TRUST.. if this is broken, the relationship has no meaning.
If you break TRUST, then be ready that someone will break yours.

Dr.Hemant (Psychiatrist and Motivational Coach)


5 thoughts on “The Cheating Wife/Girl-Friend”

  1. This article should be read by every one who are regularly online in social net works sites.Particularly on the eve of Valentine's day.Everyone should be cautious before posting any article or picture on this day.Dr Mittal's suggestions are highly solicited for this purpose.

  2. This article should be read by every one who are regularly online in social net works sites.Particularly on the eve of Valentine's day.Everyone should be cautious before posting any article or picture on this day.Dr Mittal's suggestions are highly solicited for this purpose.

  3. Thank-you Dr. Mittal: Thoroughly enjoyed this essary.
    Perhaps the increase in infidelity displays a total lack of cohesiveness within a relationship dynamic. If there is a betrayal of trust, an infidelity, this could be due to a host of reasons and problems. As culturally we do not live in a shell and the socio-sexual, etc layers of incoming stimuli can be overwhelming, as sex is an appetite, and these appetites are often offered a smorgasborg of stimuli to create the high rate of cheating by spouses today. Being exclusive attached to another has positive and negative effects. whether in a marriage or committed relationship everyday can offer excessive challenges to the best of marriages. And how can this created scenario cause one or both spouses to be blamed for their unfortunate indiscretions? Infidelity is an unpleasant dynamic in every relationship. It is always the elephant in the room. Especially the male who's very biological nature seems to support this nature of man. It is the males urge biologically, as far as the limbic brain is concerned to mate with as many potential partners as possible.(Freud and others). This very nature does lead to the component of unfaithfulness; eg |sowing one's wild oats”. As a female who totally adores being wholly the attention of one partner, I realize that there is a codependent/interdependence which can and does creates a very disagreeable schism within a relationship. It is the psyche of some who feel they cannot truly commit to another; and this, is, in all honesty the reason to be. Yes, it is a natural thing to cheat, and one must always fight the urge not to cheat, unless there is mutual trust which has a basis in a very strong spiritually satisfying exclusinve relationship, knowing the perils of infidelity; eg disease, loneliness, etc. .
    Many are not suited to stay in commitmented relationship. What many want is not what they get in a relationship.
    How they start out, committed, happy and then the inevitable happens. Why? Perhaps, culturally, men perceive exclusivity as a weakness, something dreaded. This could threaten a relationship and either male or female need to understand “the nature of the beast”. Women are often naive as to how much men cheat in many ways. But it is men's nature, their biological drives which create the high incidence of divorce, cheating, etc. So who may feel that their love is wasted upon another. But it does happen on an individual case so it is difficult to make blatant bias statements unless truly proven scientifically as to what are the exact causes of infidelity, etc. I believe men and women have many cultural/socio pressures today which do create this breech of trust at the highest level. Unfaithful is, in my opinion, is a very complex problem and needs to be fully investigated for the wellness of society in general. Often many are not aware of the true causes of their infidelity and never will be, because they draw away from initimacy as this is how society is, materialistic, hedonistic, etc. One must be able to discern fact from fiction, understand what is truly important and necessary for their value system to function in the “real” world. It is difficult and male or female is not to blame, rather caught in unawareness of the dymanic of their particular situation. In other words; it is a lot more compicated than surface level blame game.

  4. what is the reality ?

    Every one is seeking love, respect, and emotional support

    society is the problem , what others think is seen

    why not these problems come in to adivasi (junglee tribes) communities who live naked and all together

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